Rejection wound and senses
Experiencing rejection is a part of being a human.
And if that’s true, then sensitives must be the most humane of all people.
We remember these rejections as serious traumas, neglect, or a string of betrayals. Maybe it was bullying at school or always being denied a promotion at work.
Sensitive and empathic people get a fair share of these in their lives, and I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t have a profoundly painful story to share.
The invalidations we experience, go right to the core of our being. They chill our bones and muscles leaving frost where warmth and softness once lived.
But at the same time, most tend to be the most giving and warm people they are. To others, more than to themselves.
We are the most relational beings, exactly because of our sensitivity. That’s why the relational wounds hurt so much.
Senses are all about connection. It’s the inner experience of meeting the external world. It happens when we stroke the fluffy cat’s fur. When we read our cosy book. When we listen to a favourite song... and dance with ourselves humming.
In my latest episode, I was talking about a rejection wound. And it got me thinking.
If it wasn’t for the countless betrayals, rejections, loneliness, and pain that they caused me, I wouldn’t be here, knowing what I know.
What saved me?
It was learning how to use my senses to connect with the sources that nourish, and support. That love me and don't expect for me to be anything else than I am.
And as I turned my gaze from obsessing over what people did to me, to what I could do for myself, things started changing. And they kept changing ever since.
Is there ever an end to healing? I think it’s called death ;) But as we take a direction in our healing that’s following a correct path—even with life throwing us more pain—we continue healing.
FREE TALK
This topic and the video I published are the first in a series of healing relational wounds that will culminate with a free class that I will offer on the first Saturday of December—more details to come.
For now, I invite you to share any questions or experiences you might have so that I can include them in the upcoming talks and the class.
Sign up to Gosia’s newsletter and download the Free “Calm & Confident. Overwhelm & Stress Relief Toolkit for Highly Sensitive People. ”
